Women are expected to be the universal helper. Help family, friends, friends of friends etc. Sometimes they are also expected to help even those who are not known to them. It is often considered as a moral obligation, typically bestowed on women to assume the role of a “helper”. Then why is that many a times, one woman restrains herself from helping another?
The answer is hidden in four simple beliefs:
(1) Frail confidence. Women sometimes don’t think that they are capable of bringing about a difference so they decide not to help another woman if it is coming at a cost of further weakening their already frail confidence
(2) Insecurity: Women often take another women as their direct competition even if they aren’t
(3) Weak environment: Women lose charge and confidence to help each other if they notice that the surrounding environment is not supportive
(4) Fake desire: Women sometimes hesitate to help another women if there is an expected negative impact attached. Women want to please everyone and if helping another woman contrasts this expectation, then they restrict themselves to ensure that they continue to be considered likable.
We need to encourage each other to help each other. We can be angel to each other, a fairy Godmother!
It will take time to build that confidence, until then one has to help one’s own self. Empowering ourself to be our own angel!
